Joe and I couldn’t have had more different childhoods. And one of the challenges for me was truly understanding the trauma and abuse he had endured. As Joe shared his pain with me, it was learning to step into his shoes for a moment and tell him, that must have been hard for you. Tell me more. That process doesn’t always happen in a moment, but it is a direction you choose to go.
As we learn to empathize with each other, our intimacy grows. When we choose to understand each other’s sufferings, our trust grows. We become our spouse’s greatest friend and ally.