By Tara Buchanan

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We’re Joe and Tara

No matter how perfect someone’s marriage looks from the outside, every relationship has its struggles. We’ve been married for 24 years and in that time we’ve have had our own share of obstacles. From healing from childhood abuse to battling our own sin and selfishness, we know marriage is not easy. But we do believe when God enters the equation and we surrender our lives to Him, it’s always worth it. Stick around as we share the struggles and stories behind our smiles.

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We Need Some Margin!

Just like every piece of paper needs margins around it, we need margin in our personal lives.  A little space to just be together with no agenda, no pressure.  That unscheduled white space is where intimacy grows.  Where the important conversations happen. The margin we need for ... VIEW POST

Are you listening to me??

One of the most frustrating things to experience is when you feel like someone is not listening to you.  Or worse, they say they are listening, but their attention is somewhere else.  Cue: a big sigh, and some comment about what’s the point of even talking.   Why is it so hard to ... VIEW POST

Where do you want to eat?

You know that question, that one question that you’re almost afraid to ask because there’s often no easy answer.:  Where do you want to eat?  Like many couples, Joe and I struggle with deciding where to eat.  What are you in the mood for?  Do we eat at the same old place and order the usual, or do ... VIEW POST

Can we just skip Mother’s Day? Part 2

Joe and I come to Mother’s Day and holidays like this with completely different perspectives- and those differences became front and center when I became a mother.  Joe still struggled with the memories of what he lost and has struggled with depression this time of year.  Whereas for ... VIEW POST

Can We Just Skip Mother’s Day? Part 1

Joe and I have often shared how holidays can be complicated for him. Just when the rest of the world is celebrating, he has that reminder that he missed out. That he wasn't worthy. All the happy memories and the sappy commercials are a foreign concept. For some reason, the Christmas holidays ... VIEW POST

Kiss Me Good-bye!

When we first got our dog, we learned one of the greatest perks of dog ownership:  the way you are greeted when you come home.    There’s something so encouraging about someone being really, really excited to see you.  It’s good for the soul. It makes you feel like you are seen, ... VIEW POST