By Tara Buchanan

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We’re Joe and Tara
BEHIND OUR SMILES

No matter how perfect someone’s marriage looks from the outside, every relationship has its struggles. We’ve been married for 26 years and in that time we’ve have had our own share of obstacles. From healing from childhood abuse to battling our own sin and selfishness, we know marriage is not easy. But we do believe when God enters the equation and we surrender our lives to Him, it’s always worth it. Stick around as we share the struggles and stories behind our smiles.

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