I have it harder than you.

From the time we are children, we fall into the trap of comparing. Our default is to only pay attention to our own hardships. Then the enemy takes it further and convinces us that in fact, we have it harder than anyone else. And that comparison game prevents us from fully loving and serving each other.

Both of us have gone through tough things. Both of us have parts of our daily life that are really, really challenging. Both of us can list reasons why our spouse should be serving us. But what if we didn’t compare and we were more concerned with our spouse’s struggles instead of our own?