By Tara Buchanan

Behind Our Smiles

Joe & Tara Buchanan

If Your Husband is Emotionally Unavailable

Remember growing up when you used that long corded telephone to call a friend - and then that disappointment when the phone just rang and rang and rang?  Or maybe she wasn't home.   Instead of getting to share your news you get nothing?  It can feel like that with my husband.  Hello??  Is anybody ... VIEW POST

How We Keep Stress from Pulling Us Apart

It’s only when you’re squeezed that you find out what's inside. When stress hits our family, sometimes it's the ugly that spills out.  It doesn’t always feel like our best moments.   It’s not what we envisioned our marriage would look like when we were standing at the altar. But stressful times are ... VIEW POST

When Your Spouse Has Triggers

  It has taken Joe and me years of talking and praying together to help us both understand exactly how his childhood has affected him.  Coming from a broken family and a childhood full of trauma and abuse, we have learned that the healing process is long and much of the pain Joe carries will ... VIEW POST

How We Keep Our Love Life Alive (even with a houseful of kids)

Early in our marriage, keeping our love life alive was almost effortless.  We're in love!  Oh how wonderful! But as the years went by and especially as children were added to our  family, cultivating that romance didn't come as easily.  Joe and I call our kids our chaperones because they work really ... VIEW POST

When God Says Now

    Ever have one of those moments in your life or your marriage and you knew it was a moment?  That what happened in that moment would determine the outcome of the argument, the direction of the relationship? There have been many of those moments in our marriage.  When we ... VIEW POST

When He’s Not Good Enough

You’re not good enough. It’s a lie you hear every day from the enemy. Affirming your insecurities, telling you all the ways you don't measure up. In our flesh, we often equate being good with being loved.   All the attention and love and praise you get as a child when you do something good. Good ... VIEW POST

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