Defensiveness is ugly. It doesn’t look good on anyone. “Stop being so defensive!” Me defensive? You’re the one who’s being defensive! “But I” “But you” “At Least I” “Well I don’t”. Defend, defend, defend, because there’s just no way I’m wrong here. No. Way. Joe and I have both struggled with defensiveness in different ways. […]
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As I sat down to write this weekend it almost slipped my mind that this was Valentine’s Day week! Joe and I were out of town last week for a marriage ministry conference so I lost track of what day it even was. But with having a marriage blog I figured I shouldn’t miss […]
Our family recently went to see The Greatest Showman. One of the best performances was “This is Me”, a powerful song about self-acceptance and a plea for others to accept them as well. Joe does not care for musicals much (I know, he lives and breathes music and does music for a living and […]
Do you ever feel like there’s no point in talking with your spouse because it’s always a losing propostition? Not just when it’s an argument you’re going to lose, but that your spouse just can’t understand you, so what’s the point? It’s both of you talking, “listening”, saying stuff. But somehow the important stuff doesn’t […]
It’s not you it’s me. Usually that line is considered a cop-out, but for us it rang very true during seasons of our marriage. Something feels off in our relationship, okay so what did I do wrong. Is something wrong with “us”? But the tension that we felt stemmed from the personal stuff Joe was […]
The world is pressuring us and our kids more than ever. We all feel it, we all talk about it. We know it’s a not a healthy thing. When we retreat from the world to our homes, do we get a break from that pressure? Or do we just transfer that pressure to the ones […]